Tuesday, October 29, 2013

5 Reasons why the weekend was awesome.

1. Saw a Movie.
                              It's a long time since I and hubby enjoyed a movie together uninterrupted. I and hubby enjoy watching movies together and we were missing it very much. So this weekend, I put off my unnecessary maternal guilt feelings, and watched Despicable me2 in the other room with my hubby. Our mind was partly occupied (Ready to jump and run the moment we heard our son) but we saw and enjoyed something together. And it felt sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo good.  Despicable Me 2 is far better than DM1. Some of the scenes seemed to be copied from other movies. I am not sure if it was supposed to be so. Still, we laughed a lot.

2. Had a Spontaneous Outing.
                             There was this lunch / get together in the colony park and I and hubby had given  money for the lunch. We both are introverts but we wanted to change that a bit. So Sunday afternoon we dressed up, got vavoo ready, and took great pics (which unfortunately I cannot upload because of no photo policy). But when we got to the park I saw that a) it was not getting started and b) No one I knew was there. I ran to my neighbors but found that they were not going. Hubby was getting hungry and our interest had now waned completely. Suddenly we decided we would go for a ride and have lunch and come back. We rarely go out this spontaneously because of vavoo but were pleasantly surprised to learn that it was not thaaaaaaaaaaaat much of a problem after all. In fact, wipes, diapers, an extra change of clothes, two hand towels, 2 toys, a pram and we were off.  Vavoo was a model baby and hardly made a sound except in the very end. He was curious and was looking at everyone. And when he was bored we just gave him his teether which he munched off happily.
We went to the Pizza place we always went to before I got pregnant, had the same Egyptian Pizza and Cairo Salad. I had decided that if my stomach made problems, I would deal with it then and not worry about it now. So I enjoyed them. We also tried the Lasagne. It was OK. Then we browsed shops for earrings but found them way too costly. By that time vavoo was hungry so we came back.

3. Found a Nursery.
                               Plant nursery :). I have always wanted a garden and one of the main attractions of a ground floor house was the attached garden it had. However when our house owner - an avid plant lover dealt with the garden in the way she saw fit without even informing me I understood that the garden was not actually mine after all. She had also told me not to keep such and such plants. I lost interest in my garden after that. However I have always wanted to have at least a few pots of my own.
On our way back from the outing, I saw one nursery, got down, and got some plants and some mud and a sack of bio fertilizer. AND I am happy.

One problem though.

Absolutely no idea as to how to start the gardening - how and when to apply the bio fertilizer and all.
Read a lot of web pages but they don't seem to be much of a help. So I am going to do what I think is right. Hopefully the plants will thrive. Will keep you posted. Suggestions/Tips are welcome.

My plants :)



4. Discovered Cargos.
                                     Hubby always told me to try wearing cargos. He said it was comfortable. We searched for ladies cargos but never got it. Anyhow I was not a very big fan as I felt they were excessively bulky and of no use with kurtas (my normal wear) and that they were non-office dress. However this time in an emergency situation (Vavoo was crying and I needed to get him to the park ASAP)
I pulled up the only pants available in hand reach which was hubby's cargos and was off. It felt so good and comfortable. Seeing how much I liked them hubby gave them to me for my use. It's so much better than the track suits I wear at house. Loved it.

5. Got an awesome Compliment.
                Made a good and satisfying dinner on Friday. Rice, Sāmbhar and cherupayar thoran (Green Gram). For some days now I had switched to the easy ways due to time constraint. So, I decided to make the Sāmbhar the long way instead of the pressure cooker easy way in which you put all the tadka and ingredients in one go and make it within 15 min. Hubby loves my cherupayar thoran and so I wanted to make it for him since it was ages since I made it. So, I was a bit disappointed when I saw that I had overcooked the green grams. However, it came awesome and my hubby said." However you make the cherupayar thoran it comes awesome. Just like Beama Ammooma. Looks like you have her blessings". Beama Ammooma is his Fav. Grandma and an extremely great cook. So this compliment from my hubby sounded very very sweet.

Friday, October 18, 2013

Three cheers for Friday

Friday Means....

- 2 days and 3 nights of relaxed time to spend with my boys.
- My little one may sleep till late in the morning tomorrow and get up whenever he wants to as little ones should.
- He need not have formula AT ALL for two days.
- We will be able to enjoy him completely without having any time frame in mind.
- I need not bother about next day's lunch tonight itself.

Yea for Friday :) :) :)

Friday, October 11, 2013

Changes


Lots have happened in the last month. We have shifted our house.. The move would have been sentimental if hubby and me had not fallen sick that same week. So we were pretty happy to just somehow transfer our stuff from one house to the other.  We had thought shifting would be easy . We took the house 10 days in advance so that we could shift slowly and set the house simultaneously. It sounded good in theory. Did not happen. What happened was that we literally dumped our stuff in the extra room. Point to know : One has to stay in a house to know exactly where goes where.

The houses in the lane being the same type of construction, we thought that everything - the connections and plumping and electric lines, would be of the same pattern. But the previous owners were so bizarre that for the first two weeks, we and our new house owners were racking our brains trying to figure out how the basic amenities worked. Nothing made sense. It took a month for us to make peace with the house. Problems still exist but we are no longer frustrated with it. It was the same with our first house too.  But in the end we had fallen in love with it. Let us see.

My maternity leave is over and I joined office on Oct1. Baby is going to daycare. He seems to be pretty Ok there. The care givers are nice people and there are so many children there that he seems to be happy. However it is pretty difficult to leave him there and go. At first I used to be the one who left him. But when it felt too difficult my hubby decided to do it but that was difficult too. Now we do it together. Sometimes, I have people judging me for putting my child to day care. What is good for a baby?; God only knows. A working mother or a non-working mother? I was brought up by a stay at home mom and my husband was brought up by a working mother with others taking care of him in the mornings. I find no extra amazing qualities or emotional damage in either of us. Both of us are pretty ordinary and extraordinary in our own way. Both of us have similar family relations and are messed up and good enough  almost to the same level

Ideally I had intended to work only after two years. I have always declared that intent very vocally. Yet here I am; back in office. I have found that I end up doing stuff I vehemently oppose. God’s reminder not to be so cocksure of what I will do ????? Maybe.

People think that working moms go to work for their career. And that they are not willing to sacrifice their career for their babies. I don't think it is that simple. Before baby was born one of my friends told me that people will judge working moms but not to bother about such people because they don't not know what financial constraints the mother may have. True. However, now I also I feel that money or career need not be the only reasons moms go out to work. I can list at least 3 reasons which don't sound good or important enough but I suspect they drive me more than money or career. The problem is we have a set of acceptable reasons and most of us justify our actions citing them. And even if somebody cites those reasons truthfully, the reasons are again lumped into these two categories - money and career.

Self respect,  A Role model, Principles or simply happiness...  They don't sound real enough, do they? And what about that real reason which is too personal to be shared? Why simply judge?

As far as I am concerned, I intend to go with the flow keeping my eyes open. Watching every moment and if required, change course. And in the end just have faith that whatever happened was meant to happen. Whatever decision taken was the best decision.

 

 

Good Bye dear house, Now it's time to Move....

This post was meant for Sept 2nd. It more than a month but couldnot post it then. Ah better late than never. No?

Did I not say that 2013 was going to be a year of changes. Well so it is. My son was born. We are also shifting our house now. Now, we live in a first floor house but our parents said that it would be convenient to have a ground floor house so when we got one in the same lane we jumped to the opportunity. We have already got the keys of the house and have started our official shifting. Hopefully we will shift completely by 8th of this month.

We shifted our books yesterday. We had no idea that we had this many books. Proud? Yes. One good thing about that house is that they have this showcase kind of thing in the hall. We have converted it to our book shelf. It's perfect for the archies, enidblytons, agatha christies and other books of the same size. However the tinitns and Buddha series and harry potter and other big books had to be put in other shelves. Still we are extremely happy.

The first time we stuck the To - let board in front of our present house we felt bad. It was our first house. We built our happiness here. Though our marriage was on July 1st I always felt that we were truly married only on July 15th, the day we started our life here in this house Somehow in my head my wedding day is July 15th. Slowly slowly we made it a home from  a house. The other day we gave a party for our friends so that they may meet our son and one of them, a bachelor remarked.... 'ah now this house feels like a home'. And it felt good.

I don't know why some people say that once you get married your life is over, once you grow up there is no fun. The way I see it I learn new new things with every passing year. And my horizons just grow. For eg, I had no idea how to remove the air lock in a pump - something we have to do in a daily basis. There are so many things to do around the house, things you have never done before- things which ....well your dad and mom used to do.

So many memories....

---the very first afternoon when I and A cleaned the house while hubby and GC went and bought the cooler and the inverter (I got down on my knees and scrubbed the floor and I think A was impressed because somewhere I think he thought city girls don't know how to work.... Psssh.)

----the very first day we forgot to off the motor of the pump and it ran the whole night and our neighbor was calling us the whole night and we did not even hear because our new cooler was making such a huge sound.

Then we realized that water was not going up because of air lock( now what was that???!!!!) and the S aunty taught us what to do and we bought our first tool set.

----The first time we went furniture shopping and made some huge blunders that I would not make again.
Well we did make some good choices too.

-----Enjoying the first winter, fog , hailstones...

-----Sky watching in the night, lunar eclipse.....

-----Starting this blog, meeting wonderful people, 101 things to do in 1001 days and Joy of giving cards

-----Truly beginning to know my husband and vise-verse- I am sure.

-----Watched movies every single day....

-----Watching "Masterchef Austrialia" and then vowing to sleep as it was 10, then somehow ending up watching "Bones" and then watching "How I met your mother" and finally drifting off to sleep in front of the TV.

------Then there was this baby coconut tree???!!!! Something that hubby showed me which comes in a coconut if you keep it for a loooooooooooooong time. I had never tasted it before and it tasted awesome and apparently it is extremely nutritious. Frankly it felt nice to see some thing I had never seen before.

In case you are wondering what is "???!!!!". I use it when I don't know how to explain something and am just using something to describe it.

------ Trying to use an induction plate stove and making a mess of it. My omelets became scrambled eggs.  I really cannot get the hang of it. Give me a proper gas stove anytime please.

------ The Rat infestation and our fight against it. We did a lot of planning at that time.

------First experiments with biryani, fried rice, and many other dishes which my valiant husband gobbled without saying a word, except once when he got a bit angry when the salt became double and then I became angry that he became angry!!!!! Then we both kissed and made up like good children.

I guess the memories are too many  and I cant list even half of them here. I am glad I have this blog. I have preserved many of my memories in the form of posts. This was a happy house. I hope this is a happy house for anybody who comes here. Hopefully our next house will be a happy one too. Ya Allah.  Thanks for all the happiness you have given us in this house.Bless the future occupants of this house too as you have blessed us. Looking forward to having good times in the next house as well.
*Prayers*