Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Jolly Rockets

Hubby had seen this place in Ambience mall a couple of months ago and wanted to have burgers from there. So one special day we went there.Hubby was hoping he would get to eat the kind of burger he had had during our American trip. It was a well lighted place. The ambiance was very pleasant.You feel instantly happy. I do love such places. Fresco in ambience mall also makes you feel that way.

This is the first thing we saw as we entered the place - A Juke Box. I have never seen one upfront. I mean I have seen in the old Hollywood movies. So I was pretty excited to see one. The waiter was kind enough to show us how to work them. It was interesting but I began to think how outdated it was and then suddenly Irealized- Duh! that's why it's novelty, is it not? :) They had a good collection of old english songs- the Elvis Presly time songs. Again they maintained the atmosphere. I felt as if suddenly we were in a different country.

I had fallen in love with the Ceaser's Salad during the American trip. So I ordered that along with Onion Rings. The onion rings were very crispy but  I think I prefer our onion bajjis more. I loved the huge Red bowls in which they bought the salad. The salad was pretty tasty and filling though next time I must remember to tell them to not put the cheese. Do you like the taste of raw cheese? I??? Not that much.

Hubby had ordered the Number 12 burger. Apparently it is named Number 12 becasue no one rates it less than 12 /10 and hubby says that's true.By the way, their Burgers are huge and juicy!!!! They have an option of either green salad or french fries to go with it. The french fries were really good.  Hubby seemed to enjoy his burger quite a lot. I think he would have loved to have beef but you don't get beef in such chains - being culturally conscious and all that. That one thing is enough to fill your stomach.

I had felt that American proportions of food is pretty big and my thought was justified when we got the milk shake we ordered. We had ordered a strawberry flavored milk shake and they gave the whole thing they made. The glass in the left was full and the steel glass in the right was half full. It was HEAVY but divine. We had ordered cheese cake too for dessert but couldn't get a pic of it. Cheese cake is one of  our favorite desserts which can taste pretty bad if not made well. In fact we almost judge a place from it's cheesecake. And yes, Jolly Rockets passed the test with flying colors.

So that's the saga of the Jolly Rockets trip.
In a nut shell:
  • Loved the ambience
  • Great place for a friends/spouse or any other kind date - anything except a romantic one.
  • Great place to take your kids
  • Good filling proportions.It didnot feel like you shelled a lot of money and still felt hungry.

Now comes the money aspect:
We had two burgers, One Ceaser's salad, One milkshake, One onion Rings, One unlimited softdrink, One piece of cheesecake and the bill came around Rs 2400/- with taxes. whether it is worth or not , you decide.

My Verdict - Good place to go once in a while for a different experience.

Monday, June 23, 2014

Live-in or marriage? Which is the better option & why?

If you had asked me this question 5 years ago I would have said diplomatically - "it's everyone's choice" and I would have thought - "My God, I would never live in".

Then I got married.
Ours was a inter religious marriage and in my religion if you are not marrying a guy of the same religion , you are not married at all. You are technically living "in sin". But then there is another clause too - "either the laws of the book or the laws of the land". For me the laws of the land was always more important. However when you are brought up giving enough importance to your religious scriptures, it is difficult to go against it. Not impossible- the logical mind always wins, but yes, difficult.

I was very much adamant about the Special Marraige Act. We had a ceremony of hubby's religion in the morning for his parents sake. For my hubby and his relatives, we were married. But until I signed that paper in the evening I couldn't consider the marriage to be legal. In my heart I was not married at all until that time.

Still it took some time for the rational mind to convince the irrational mind that I was not living "in sin". After two years of marriage I truly fell in love. I realized that love is the need that one feels for each other equally. And then one day , just like that. I realized that I no longer cared if I was living in sin or not. You know why? I realized that no paper defined the love and respect I had for my hubby. No  contract is going to tell me if I should live with him or not. It did not even matter anymore if I was married or not.
If someday some dictator came and made obsolete all the present marriage laws would present husband and wives suddenly decide they were no longer supposed to be together? Really? No . They would simply ignore these proclamations because marriage is not that legal contract. With time people realize that marriage was not that 7 rounds or "I do's" or "I accept's" (kubool hain), its what happens after that. That contract is just for security reasons. That function is just for social reasons and for satisfying that brainwashed mind of ours. As far as religion is concerned. The truly enlightened know these are but petty issues for God. We are all made by him.(if at all). He is the judge and not us. And that he doesn't need advocates.

There are many arguments for marriage and against live in like :
- Characterless people who flit from people to people have live in relationships.
- There is no commitment in live in relationship
- There is no security in live in relationship

If there is an option of divorce in the country laws, if there is an option of separation in the country laws how is marraige different from live in as far as the first two reasons are concerned? As far as security reasons are concerned, forgive me, I am a cynic. All the women I know, who have had the worst deals, are from the married category, especially the arranged marraige category. You know why? Because our system here says..."You are married,you stay married. WHATEVER HAPPENS." They is no option of walking out. There is a better chance of people walking out of bad live in relationships before it goes to the stage of bashing each other up.In fact  sometime i feel that parents will accept these girls back almost happy that they were right and thanking that the child had come back to the straight path and what not but not the married girls. For them it's "Adjust beta".

A relationship in which people are not committed, will not work whether you are married or not.
A relationship in which people are commited, will work whether you are married or not.

And sometimes a relationship will not work even if you are committed.  Isn't that the beauty of the human brain? There is no code which will work for all situations.

I know of relationships which stand the test of time without the requirement of that legal contract despite the tremendous social pressure. I know of relationships which breaks in a year or two despite being happily married initially.

Some people just don't need that assurance of that paper. Some people just have the guts to live their lives with their principles.

Which one is better you ask me???

because a happy live in relationship is much better than a degrading married life.
A happy married life is much better than a degrading live in relationship.

Today If you ask me that question "Which is better? - A Live In relationship or a Married one.
I would say  " Whatever works the best for the couple."
And I would think " Whatever works the best for the couple".

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Haiku - Happiness

My baby's first words
Gagle booble mamapoo
Confused what he means

Is it so? I ask
Teehee happily he laughs
My heart soars above

I repeat his words
Gagle booble mamapoo
He laughs once again

Friday, June 13, 2014

Things that make me happy #2

Eating Mulberries from trees (Especially from those trees which just grows wild 
and you chance upon it)

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Haiku - Stones


Rivers flowing through
Stones try to block the pathway
Stones get polished soon

Life going too fast
Difficulties are your stones
Polish them smooth too

Play with the smooth stones
Delight in their attained shapes
Admire yourself now

Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Life lessons on making others wait.

Don't make people wait for your love or appreciation for such a long time that they begin to think that 
 you are not worth the wait after all.

Friday, June 6, 2014

Why? - 3 Questions

- Why does it matter to you that I don't drink? I don't explain to you why I don't drink. I don't tell you why you should not drink. I don't lecture you or put conditions that you should be such and such to be with me. Why do you assume that I have a problem with you drinking just because I don't drink? And why exactly do you assume that I somehow have lesser fun than you just because I don't drink. Once again, why exactly?

-Why would anyone want to put such strong things on their face for protection and fairness? I normally don't use any kind of skin protection. I have no need for it as I don't go out in the sun. But for the last couple of days, I had to go out to meet my son during lunch break and mostly walked in the sun. My cousin had left a brand new tube of the new 9 to 5 type cream with SPF and something something and I thought I will use it for the time being and buy her another one. I put it in my bag and left for my office. Unfortunately it had a hole and it leaked out into my new new new bag. I threw the tube away and proceeded to wipe it out with a tissue and wet tissue. And I got a shock because it had stuck to my bag like dried paint. Even though there are spots in my bag, thank god it was on the bag and not me. I was shocked. Why do people use this strong stuff to look fair? And please does somebody know how to remove these stains. I want my bag to look new :(

- Why do employers assume that ladies will not shift to another location if their husbands are working in the present location? Will they ask the men "Will you join so and so location as your wife is working here???” Why do people (Ex-me included) have the mentality that if the husband is transferred the wife goes with him, but if the wife gets a job somewhere else..... Oh wait, why should she even try when her husband is working here? Let the husband try first.

(Ok the last point was written with a bit of passion.)
When I am with my parents, I am a daughter
When I am with my husband, I am a partner
When I am with my son, I am a mother
When I am with my sister am a sister
When I am with my brothers, I am a sister
When I am with my friends, I am a friend
When I am with my work, I am a Professional.
I take the role of the employer, server, and counselor as and when the need arises.
I may play different roles but ultimately I am I

Why is it so difficult to understand that?